I have been having a lot of questions on my mind lately. Questions that I am not sure what to do.
School...
When do I go back to school? Which school do I go to? Do I continue English Education Degree?
I always said that once Simon graduated I would go back to school. Well, he graduated in December and I know I need to go back but its so difficult to get motivated. I only have a year and a half left for my degree. I only have 3 more English classes and then a full year of Education classes and student teaching. I was attending UGA when we decided we had NO money for school and now I am sure I could go back to be a DAWG fan, but their education program is so difficult to get into... I get frusterated just thinking about it. And then I was thinking about going to GA STATE or even changing my major to broadcasting at The Connecticut School of Bradcasting located in Gwinnett County. Who knows?
Babies...
Do we continue to try and concieve? Do we wait until we live on our own? Do we wait until I finish school?
Simon and I have been trying for a while.... and well yeah.... you probably know we have not been a lucky family. I am afraid that I may be one who will need fertility treatments as my doctor a while ago said it might be needed. And well, we have NO money for the treatments as they are EXPENSIVE!!!! UGH! We currently reside with my inlaws in thier basement. Its not my dream or even something I am proud of, but its what is needed to be done to be caught up on debt. I always dreamed of coming home and bringing our baby to "our" home. And I do not need want to be an OLD mom and we both are so ready to have kids i dont want to stop but I cant have a kid while in school or even while my first year of teaching?! I know God knows when my timing will be right, but i hate that everything is not working and i feel so discouraged knowing that there is nothing Simon and I can do right now.
Keeping my blog....
Whether or not to delete?
I love my blog! Do not get me wrong, its like my personal diary that I can escape to and will always listen. Its also a way to stay in touch with my friends, family and Simons family. But lately I feel as though it has caused more problems than good. Not my intentions ever. My blog is made about "ME" and everything on here is something going on in my life; good and bad! I am not perfect, God did not make us to be perfect. I am a Christian and a friend. But I make mistakes as much as the next and I have to learn from them. I like to have an occasional drink with my friends and it not be a big deal or "look bad". I like to go to church and spread the word. I like to vent as much as the next to get things off of my chest. I dont know whether it is best to stop my blog to stop the gossip or to just ignore everything and continue my life as I was? This is not meant to offend anyone just a question I was thinking about.
If anyone wants to help and give some advice I will take any I can get. Its just a few things being wieghed on my mind lately and I hope you all can help!
Thank You!!!!
BeThankful....
13 years ago
Hi Christy! This is Lisa Boggs. I have found that from my own experience... it is much easier to obtain a quality job with a college degree. Most employers will also be more apt to give you highter pay with the degree under your belt.
ReplyDeleteI would also recommend having the degree before the babies come... only because once you have a baby.. your life changes drastically... you don't have the time to go to school or to study, etc... You don't get any sleep for awhile and it's much harder to concentrate on anything other than your baby.
Also, it can be pretty expensive to have children... It's much easier to support your children if you already have a lucrative career...
Now, having said that... I know that people have babies all the time while they go to school and work. It's do-able.... As long as you have a strong support system. If you have family and friends that are willing to help you financially, and with childcare, etc...
Word to the wise... Children obviously are wonderful and they add a great deal of joy to your life. However, if you are not financially stable... having children and not having enough money or time can put a strain on your marriage. Whether you like it or not... you'll find yourself fighting about not having enough money or enough time....
I am glad that I waited until I had a college degree, a solid career and money in my savings account, in a retirement plan and had solid health insurance. I owned a home and 2 cars before I had Linden. I feel like I might not have been strong enough to withstand the hardships that come with not having those things before the babies came. That's just my personal experience... I hope that helps :)
Thank You Lisa! It means a lot that you took the time to write. This does help and I completely see where you are coming from. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteKeep the blog... that's my 2 cents :)
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